Just recently, I have been thinking how much simpler it would be for the people left behind to arrange a loved one's funeral if they had something to go on. It may surprise you to know how little people know about each other. Just ask yourself - do you know all there is to know about your spouse, parent, child? What music they like, what their hobbies are, do they have any unspent aspirations in life, have they achieved something you are not aware of? If you can't answer these questions, then it is highly likely that your funeral arranger won't be able to answer them for you!
It is so sad that I often have to create funeral ceremonies where so little is known about the dearly departed that it is difficult to create a true and meaningful tribute for them - after all, an honourable and respectful tribute which captures the very essence of the person who has died, is something which everybody surely deserves. But the real sadness and hardship is seeing the loved ones that are left behind, who are already beside themselves with grief, really struggling trying to find information, losing sleep over which music to choose, worrying that they have done or said the right thing or invited the right (or wrong) people.
So I am devising a simple form which will list everything a celebrant would wish to know for you to complete and leave somewhere - either with your Will if you have one, or perhaps give it to a relative or friend or just put it somewhere easily accessible for someone to find when your time comes. It will really help your loved ones at a time when they so crucially need assistance. If you would like a form just email me with your name and address and/or email address and I will send one out to you.
It's your funeral - you deserve a good send off! Thank you.
In this section, I will document some of my experiences as a celebrant, perhaps something I have learned, things that may be of interest to a reader, my thoughts .... your thoughts (if you would like to leave comments?) ... Enjoy!